I think Some people see violence as a line that, once crossed, cannot be uncrossed Rugby. To them, it’s like rape or child molestation. There is a trust that is lost when one makes the decision to sexual assault a person, or abuse a child, or send a person to the hospital through a physical beating. They don’t see it as a mistake. To those people, Shoplifting or speeding are mistakes that can be forgiven. Violence is another matter. It’s an indication of a person’s deep character. A sign of what they are capable of when put in a certain situation.

You can forgive your dog for peeing on the floor or chewing your shoes or breaking into the food. You don’t forgive your dog when it injures you or a family member in an attack and sends them to the hospital. You put the dog down and get a new one.

At least that’s the way others have explained it to me; including people who have been victims of sexual or physical attack. It’s not the person the hate…it’s the act and personal violation they’ve experienced that they have to deal with for the rest of their lives that they hate.