iceshack149

I'm not sure that two guys that are down on their luck would have healthy discussions so be careful. We all want you to get over this and be happy again.

neugey

I had a great phone conversation and received gracious support from "leilung" last night. Awesome guy. The talk we had is helping me re-situate and possibly try some different approaches to my financial difficulty.

neugey

Me: I don't know if I want to go on

Kamara: I FRICKING GOT YOU

Boston Saint

Honestly wish I could give you a bro-hug!

leilung

Glad I could help. Great conversation! We have an awesome cummunity. Mind you, we all can be a little bit of an arsehole with our opinions, but there are a bunch of truly good people here who are more than willing to give a brother (sister) support.

Rugby Saint II

This ought to put a smile on your face. Beating the cowgirls always puts a smile on my face. But a beat down at home to blow their winning streak was very inspirational.

Who Dat!

EDIT: This one is for you. Feel better?

OldMaid

Oh . I only got to page one.
I opened here thinking….this was about an NFL team with a tough division or a team and division you hate.

WE ALL HAVE PROBLEMS.IT IS CALLED LIFE. Some problems are HARDER AND LAST LONGER AND others are just stuff more easily to work out.

All that to say, you are not alone.
1) No to hitting the bottle.
Liquor cannot handle you, but you can handle liquor and you have.
15 years, congratulations.

2) You have to get into therapy. ASAP, now. Right niw if you have not already. It is not always expensive.
While weekly sessions n the work to do, you have to get a job. Not thee job, but a job. Something to do to focus on. Idle mind and time is not good for you. Overnight stock work at Target, custodial building work overnight, Walmart overnight stock….Rouse overnight stock, Home Depot, Lowe’s…..No customers. You won’t see anybody you know. There is no shame in work, but you don’t need to be asked or answer 100 questions , you know, by people you know.

3) You made another right choice in using here as a safe space.
No judges , self- righteous people here.
. Unlike many who are just so overtaken by issues and don’t say it to catch a lifeline, and just do it, the family, friends, even strangers are not able to help , throw out a lifeline out to the person. You are calling for hrlp instead of the alternative.
This is a good thing It means you are asking for someone to listen , to understand, and throw a raft to you.

4) Yes, we have to pray. Daily, often. Just one in his/ her thoughts while walking, working, etc.
Church. Try it. . I am Catholic and go sometimes to a SouthernBaptist church to hear the music of prayer. It moves me.

5) Please keep us updated.
6) Your wife n daughter do need you. Other family, friends, neighbors would miss you and could help them, but time moves on.
With the country today and over these next four years, sorry for bringing up politics, but it is real and affects you n yours too. Your daughter needs you. She NEEDS you. Guidance, protection, family. Comfort zone. A place to belong is with her parents. Home. Safe haven be it the old house or a nice, new apartment. Working to together , you n your wife, for you two, y’all, future and your daughters too.
You were right again , thinking right again in that if this house goes, then a nice apartment or renting a nice house is good.
Y’all can get another house, but not another husband n father. You.

7) Take care.

OldMaid

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@ leilung
Good that you helped. you were a lifeline. Thanks for the update.